A Letter to Felice Examples of amae can also be found in Kafka's letters. Especially relevant in this context is a passage in a letter to his fiance Felice Bauer (The Basic Kafka, pp. 286f) which he regarded as so important that he also noted it in his diary and quoted it in a letter to his friend Max Brod, where he even proposes it as his epitaph. The fact that Kafka copied this text …showed first 75 words of 1002 total…

…showed last 75 words of 1002 total…better off. The lighthearted and ironic way in which he introduces the above passage in a letter to Brod indicates this: "What do you say about this marvelous piece of self-knowledge [.....]? It would be a good epitaph." In his family, Kafka probably did not enjoy many opportunities to have his wish to amaeru gratified. This seems to be especially true with regard to his father, as the Letter to His Father (The Basic Kafka 234) indicates.